Comments on: The Challenge of Being "Sober Curious" When You Enjoy Drinking

By: Bridgette Dutkowski

Bridgette Dutkowski — Mon, 23 Mar 2020 16:31:47 +0000

In reply to Amanda. Thanks, Amanda. My husband's experience is similar with regards to growing up with parents that faced addiction issues, but his relationship with drinking is much different than mine. It's interesting how personal the relationship is to addiction and how much it can differ from person to person. Congratulations to your husband! Four years is quite an accomplishment.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 04:10:17 +0000

Powerful. My husband has been sober 4 years and has similar story in regards to how having a drink was woven into almost every part of his life. I admire anyone who can evaluate their own behaviors and consider alternatives. So many people aren’t ever able to come that far. Props.

By: Arvinder

Arvinder — Fri, 20 Mar 2020 11:58:25 +0000

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.

By: Bridgette Dutkowski

Bridgette Dutkowski — Fri, 20 Mar 2020 02:06:10 +0000

In reply to Kelly Kennedy. Kelly, thank you for the kind words. I was really hesitant to publish this, out of fear of being judged. Thank you for your support.

By: Bridgette Dutkowski

Bridgette Dutkowski — Fri, 20 Mar 2020 02:03:22 +0000

In reply to Jess. Thanks, Jess. This was easy to write, but hard to share. Erin, who also works at W&D, also recommended Quit Like a Woman, I'll have to check it out.

By: Kelly Kennedy

Kelly Kennedy — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 19:37:37 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing, this is such an under talked about topic in our society but so prevalent, i really appreciate the bravery it took to write this.

By: Jess

Jess — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 17:11:26 +0000

Hi Bridgette, thanks for this heartfelt and honest post. I’m about halfway through reading “Quit Like a Woman” by Holly Whitaker and I highly recommend it. I stumbled across it on the shelf and then got it from the library. I wasn’t consciously “sober curious” but I realize that I’ve been gravitating toward sobriety/nondrinking stories for months now. Quit like a woman is changing everything. It’s about letting go of the “capital A” connotations/rationalizations (which resonate so deeply with me because of my family’s history of addiction and alcoholism) and embarking on a path of integrated healing that addresses our need(s) to escape and turn to substances. It’s a way of looking at choosing not to drink from a totally different perspective (in my opinion), starting with different questions and a sense of what’s possible.