Comments on: 11 Ways to Build a Love that Goes the Distance

By: Kristin

Kristin — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 10:58:43 +0000

Emily, if you’re out there reading – we are sympatico. I could’ve written your experience. I also started dating my husband when I was 16. We’ve been together for 15 years and married for almost 4, and this is still a struggle for me. I still want him to react to me in certain ways, to show more emotion or excitement, even though when I take a pause, I know he shows his love and affection in many other ways. I often manufacture problems out of nothing just because I perceived his reaction the wrong way. It’s not easy, but it’s something I keep working on. It helps me feel better that I’m not the only one!

By: Julie Rybarczyk

Julie Rybarczyk — Tue, 06 Mar 2018 01:10:41 +0000

In reply to Emma. Thank you, Emma! xo

By: Julie Rybarczyk

Julie Rybarczyk — Tue, 06 Mar 2018 01:09:16 +0000

In reply to Magyn Merrick. What an inspiring, beautiful, and wise story, Magyn. Thank you for sharing it. I'm so glad you found a good man who builds you up. xo

By: Emma

Emma — Sat, 03 Mar 2018 20:01:40 +0000

Loved this article, so interesting and useful to read other women's perspectives. Certainly given me some food for thought, thank you so much for sharing! Hope & Wilson

By: Magyn Merrick

Magyn Merrick — Sat, 03 Mar 2018 19:44:21 +0000

This was such a good piece! I had just moved from Memphis to Austin trying to force a love that had been a wild and utterly destructive romance, when we (my fiance and I,) decided to randomly attend a church service. The service was centered around the song, “Ring of Fire.” We often feel like love and relationships have to be this hot, burning flame, when really, fire can be destructive and leave only ashes in its wake. Good relationships help to build you up, not to destroy you. We looked at each other, both with tears, and just knew that it had to end. Now, I’m married to a man that really deserves the effort. Perhaps my relationship with my husband is not some obsessive, heat-driven galavant, but it is something lasting and something that we can both build upon. We choose each other everyday.

By: Amy

Amy — Sat, 03 Mar 2018 12:34:05 +0000

In reply to Julie Rybarczyk. I can't wait to hear what you think of The Course of Love! Enjoy.

By: Julie Rybarczyk

Julie Rybarczyk — Fri, 02 Mar 2018 20:40:19 +0000

In reply to Amy.

Thank you so much for your insights and kind words, Amy. I always love hearing people say the work is worth it – because I believe that to be true, but so often we hear the opposite (as relationships fail all around us)… Also, guess what?! I just ordered The Course of Love. Thanks for the heads up on that one. It sounds great. xo

By: Julie Rybarczyk

Julie Rybarczyk — Fri, 02 Mar 2018 20:35:33 +0000

In reply to Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog. Charmaine - I'm glad to know they ring true. Thank you for your comment! xo

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 02 Mar 2018 16:07:58 +0000

I love this article. I think so much of our view on relationships prior to marriage or long-term commitment is romantic and rose-colored (much like motherhood, perhaps), but the reality is hard work. I’ll say, it’s worth-it hard work. I’m currently reading Allen de Botton’s ‘The Course of Love’ – I wish everyone would read it before hurtling head-first into a major love commitment. 🙂 You always write such compelling articles. Thanks for a great read.

By: Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog — Fri, 02 Mar 2018 16:06:03 +0000

These are very good tips. I’m in a long-term relationship and I can certainly vouch for them! 🙂
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