Comments on: Why Is It so Hard to Make New Friends as an Adult? https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/ A Lifestyle Blog Sat, 27 May 2023 19:34:37 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.1 By: Mirella https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-703493 Sat, 27 May 2023 19:34:37 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-703493 How do you feel about this post-pandemic? I am 27 next week and worked throughout the whole pandemic in healthcare. I am having a very hard time getting myself to even get out of the house. My 20s have been completely wasted it feels like and I don’t feel like I can really salvage that. Maybe I don’t have to at all but I also do have to get out of the house. What are your thoughts?

]]> By: Saturday Reads: Edition #1 https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-651400 Sat, 15 Jun 2019 03:24:28 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-651400 […] Sharni at Girl and Grey, I discovered this piece on making friends as an adult and why do we find it so hard from Wit & […]

]]> By: Lyndsey https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644256 Fri, 12 Apr 2019 21:33:21 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644256 Ooh interesting. I’m 40 and live in uk and metting new people is a hobby. I have lived in USA and many a new city and here is what I learnt about making friends:
1. It takes time
2. You need to make a lot of connections to find someone you click with
3. You can click with lots of people in different ways
4. Having shared history and experiences makes it easier
5. Friendship doesn’t always look or feel the same each time.
Good luck fellow friend hunter xx

]]> By: Ashley https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644255 Fri, 12 Apr 2019 17:42:42 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644255 In reply to YP.

Just moved to the NYC area last year! living in JC but working in Manhattan! Would love to meet up!

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644254 Fri, 12 Apr 2019 12:12:45 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644254 In reply to Malvika.

Hi Malvika, thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience. I, too, have met most of my friends here in Oslo through school, but it’s been a bit more difficult this time around since I’m no longer on any forms of social media. However, introducing myself to others has definitely helped, especially because I don’t attend as many social events here as I once did in undergrad either. I’ve also found that it’s helped me connect with the friends I’ve made through school on a deeper level, too. I wish you all the best on your search, though! Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you ever have any questions!

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644253 Fri, 12 Apr 2019 12:02:42 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644253 In reply to Lotte.

Hi Lotte, ironically I have had several people who are from Norway tell me that many Norwegians are quite “shy” when it comes to meeting new people, which is why many of them explained how refreshing it was to have someone come up to them and start chatting 🙂 This type of positive feedback has been my motivation fuel to continue on with this challenge!

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644252 Fri, 12 Apr 2019 11:57:06 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644252 In reply to Kelly.

Hi Kelly, ah I didn’t even know about Bumble Bff!! I’ve also tried Meet Ups, which is another great way to meet new people, but you’re completely right; a key ingredient in friendship is consistency and it can be so easy for life to “get in the way” sometimes, especially when so many friends/people are in different life stages at any given time. However, it sounds like you’re on the right path for meeting some pretty amazing people though. I wish you all the best in your search, and want to thank you for taking the time to share a bit of your story!

]]> By: Malvika https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644251 Fri, 12 Apr 2019 03:45:42 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644251 I really like this post. I’m a PhD student, and I find that the closest friends I’ve made after starting the program have been those in my cohort, my roommates from last year, and my roommates from this year. I don’t go to nearly as many social activities as I did in undergrad, and I don’t meet nearly as many people as I used to. If I see people frequently enough in my classes, I might add them in Facebook and try to connect with them outside, but it’s hard to make deeper friendships with that. It really scares me that I can have so much trouble making friends while still on a university campus when I know that I want to move somewhere new like you did with your husband after I graduate. I worry that I’ll end up being extremely lonely for the first year or longer of my stay in a new place. I’d love to hear how walking up to people and making friends works for you! Have those conversations turned into sustainable friendships?

]]> By: Lotte https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644250 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 23:18:49 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644250 Hi.
What a good article 🙂 The Nordic people can be difficult to get in contact with. I am Swedish and many Nordic people are by nature a little a little shy. We are not used to strangers approaching us 🙂 It seems like many Nordic people hang on to friends from school. It could be good if we were a bit more open. Don’t you agree?

]]> By: Kelly https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644249 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 15:49:31 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644249 Totally agree! I’ve gone to meet ups, started new hobbies, joined leagues, and even signed up for Bumble BFF. After struggling to find any friendships that stick I started wondering if I am the problem. But after many many articles, conversations with my boyfriend and therapist, and hours of contemplation – I’ve realized the reason is many others also want friends but are unwilling to commit and really “go all in”. The thing is … close friendships take time and consistency. Without both acquaintances remain just that … friendship takes risk. Courage. Consistency. As a 35 yr old with no kids I’m realizing many near my age have kids and simply can’t commit consistently and don’t when it comes to regular communication (even text). For now I’ve settled with acquaintances, but I’m hopeful in time some might develop into tried and true friendship. Until then I find comfort in articles like this. 🙂

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644248 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 07:48:25 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644248 In reply to YP.

Hi YP, thank you so much for the kind words, as well as for taking the time to comment and share your own experience. I can totally relate to what you’re going to because that’s exactly how I felt when I moved to NYC after I graduated college. If only I was still in the city to meet up! I wish you all the best 🙂

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644247 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 07:45:20 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644247 In reply to Cat.

Hi Cat, thank you for taking the time to share your experience. It’s comforting to know so many of us find this topic relatable. But ah, what an incredible journey you have ahead of you come September. I bet you will meet such amazing people through the Peace Corps, and establish true, life-long relationships through that experience. I am so excited for you and wish you all the best!!

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644246 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 07:41:05 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644246 In reply to Mikko.

Hi Mikko, I agree with you; hobbies are a great way to make friends! Yet, it can still be a bit hard to meet people when one’s hobbies don’t require much human interaction, such as writing or reading!

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644245 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 07:37:55 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644245 In reply to Meredith.

Hi Meredith, thank you for taking the time to comment. I absolutely love your friend’s strategy!! There’s something so exhilarating about the idea of handing out business cards to connect instead of “befriending” one another on Facebook. I just might have to implement that tactic myself 🙂

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644244 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 07:34:50 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644244 In reply to Erika.

Ah, thank you so much for bringing my attention to that video. I can’t even begin to tell you how much it made me smile. “I think making friends is easier than eating chocolate!” — what a great line! #EndLoneliness

]]> By: Kathryn https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644243 Thu, 11 Apr 2019 07:30:12 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644243 In reply to Teresa.

Thank you for your kind words, Teresa! I try to keep that quote quite close because despite how many times I introduce myself to new people, the idea can still seem a bit intimidating from time to time. Yet, the moment I read those words, it all seems much less daunting! I appreciate you taking the time to comment though, and wish you all the best!

]]> By: YP https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644242 Wed, 10 Apr 2019 06:03:07 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644242 Thanks for this post!
I am in NYC where it feels like everyone is moving 100mph so approachability is often overlooked.
Work and hobby friends are often the closest friends you can make after ‘school’ friends (HS/College) by the same principle, proximity.
I love that you stepped up to someone Kathryn, and had a great convo! I liked that.
Anyone in NYC area – look me up!

]]> By: Cat https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644241 Tue, 09 Apr 2019 16:41:18 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644241 Friends are so much harder to make as an adult! I am glad I am not the only one experiencing this. I am in University right now, but I am also struggling to meet friends. I think it is because my university is a commuter-campus…no one hangs around enough to make those connections and many have busy lives beyond school. So far, the only *good* friends I have made, after high school, is through work. I am serving in the Peace Corps in September and the thought of moving somewhere new and not being fluent in their official language makes me nervous about making friends and having real genuine relationships.

Cat
https://catmtrang.wordpress.com

]]> By: majleru https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644240 Tue, 09 Apr 2019 11:30:26 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644240 I think that information from https://essayclick.net/blog/persuasive-essay-topics will be useful to read for college students. It will help you to pick your persuasive essay topic

]]> By: Mikko https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644239 Tue, 09 Apr 2019 00:19:46 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644239 To find friends get a hobby. Simple really.

]]> By: Meredith https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644238 Mon, 08 Apr 2019 19:15:44 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644238 Yes! It’s so hard. I moved to Nashville seven years ago and the first year was ROUGH. I have a friend that lived with her husband in Germany during the late 80s. She handed out business cards to everyone she met asking them to be her friend! She encouraged me to do the same, but I didn’t have the courage to just walk up to people.

]]> By: Erika https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644236 Mon, 08 Apr 2019 17:11:18 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644236 I love this!!! The first step is the hardest step for sure. It reminds me of this wonderful video in the UK recently: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pm12mTIUJss

]]> By: Teresa https://witanddelight.com/2019/04/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult/#comment-644235 Mon, 08 Apr 2019 16:47:55 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=35628#comment-644235 THIS! So inspiring and sooo encouraging! Because I really struggled to find friends when I moved to my current home country, when all I had to do was just open my mouth. Next time I will take a leaf out of your book 🙂

Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

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