Comments on: Why Marriage is Hard at First When You Have Little Ones

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 08 Aug 2018 17:44:06 +0000

Mom of an 19 month old here and – wow – does this hit home. Kudos for this post and it’s great recommendations (Gottmans are THE experts in the field for couples). The more we write about this topic and normalize it, the easier it is to talk about and tackle. Yes, 1/3 is a good number of healthy couples, but for the rest of us it’s good to know and have the resources to build healthier and stronger skills and relationships if/when we chose to have children. If you have a really blissful life then I completely support you in keeping it! But if you’ve always wanted a family, there should be support for that, too. And maybe even bliss.

By: Tab

Tab — Sat, 04 Aug 2018 18:14:17 +0000

Actually a lot of us couples without children and singles are fully aware of this, and that’s often one of the reasons we’ve chosen not to have children. It’s not hard to figure out if you have any friends with kids. It’s also something to really consider before having them. A lot of marriages don’t recover from kids. For me, I was not willing to sacrifice a really blissful life with my husband for kids.

By: Diana Dragomir

Diana Dragomir — Sat, 04 Aug 2018 16:07:08 +0000

Why don’t you just tell readers what the 1/3 of couples whose happiness doesn’t decrease much, do? 1/3 is a significant fraction who are clearly doing the right things, so the other 2/3 can just learn from them 🙂