Comments on: Why I Choose Kindness Over Niceness https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/ A Lifestyle Blog Fri, 02 Jun 2023 00:55:24 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.1 By: 10 Micro-Habits That Will Transform Your Life - Swimwear & Beachwear Live Life On Beautikini https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-703629 Fri, 02 Jun 2023 00:55:24 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-703629 […] the nice thing is not about recognition; it’s a many-times-daily reminder to do the kind thing for both others and yourself, especially when no one is looking. You’ll condition your brain to […]

]]> By: 10 Micro-Habits That Will Transform Your Life - News5s https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-694843 Mon, 07 Mar 2022 11:40:07 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-694843 […] good is not about being recognized; it’s multiple daily reminders to do good deeds for both others and for yourself, especially when no one is looking. You will allow your brain to […]

]]> By: El Sa https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-683939 Fri, 11 Dec 2020 00:17:21 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-683939 I’ve had this thought that’s been on my mind. Niceness is nice until it’s not.

]]> By: gustavowoltmann https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-682784 Fri, 27 Nov 2020 06:25:37 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-682784 Oh very cool post and I will like to share this because I think its very useful for me. Gustavo Woltmann

]]> By: Bill https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-675968 Tue, 18 Aug 2020 13:08:41 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-675968 In reply to Mailinh.

A question I often ask myself is, “what does love look like in this situation?” Or, “what would love do?”..

]]> By: Barbara harris https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-674858 Mon, 27 Jul 2020 19:08:04 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-674858 It has been helpful for me to remember that someone who can be nice, may well be neither “good”, kind, nor trustworthy,

]]> By: Rachel Perry https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-673862 Thu, 09 Jul 2020 18:21:33 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-673862 What a beautiful way to differentiate between being nice and being kind. I had never put it in this context before, and would like to think I lean more towards the kind side (I nicely tell someone how I feel whether it’s good or bad feedback)… Well written 🙂
Rachel Perry
https://www.homesweethomestore.com

]]> By: The Wanderlust Rose https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-667629 Wed, 22 Apr 2020 01:51:10 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-667629 This post really resonated with me. Growing up in Minnesota, I sometimes felt paralyzed by the “niceness”. It often leads to people pleasing instead of the complexities of deep and meaningful relationships. Yes to way more kindness!

]]> By: Loren https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-667585 Tue, 21 Apr 2020 16:13:35 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-667585 thank you for the reminder. gives me courage to continue in this. i lean towards the not-caring-what-people-think and need to be reminded to be kind in my not caring ;).

]]> By: LW https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-662772 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 20:20:00 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-662772 Beautifully written piece on a topic that is so much on my mind these days. Decades of living life in “be nice” / “good girl” mode can certainly make for a “nice” life…of sorts. But moving further outside one’s comfort zone and trying to see and act with more “kindness” is really so much enjoyable and fulfilling. Thank you. (Jan 2020)

]]> By: I don’t want to raise ‘nice’ girls – on raising daughters https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-650823 Fri, 31 May 2019 21:09:52 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-650823 […] Rybarczyk, in her article “Why I Choose Kindness Over Niceness,” explains, “Kindness isn’t just about restraining myself from hurting someone. […]

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583554 Mon, 12 Feb 2018 15:45:48 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583554 In reply to Ellen Koneck.

Ellen – Here’s to ongoing healing from toxic niceness!

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583553 Mon, 12 Feb 2018 15:43:20 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583553 In reply to Onyinyechi.

Thank you, Onyinyechi. Man, does it take effort sometimes, right? xo

]]> By: Ellen Koneck https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583550 Mon, 12 Feb 2018 15:20:40 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583550 This is so spot-on. I totally resonate with the way we convince ourselves that it’s nice to diminish unpleasant or broken parts of ourselves in the presence of others. It’s toxic, both for our wellbeing and our relationships! (And I *do* think it’s more common in the Midwest… though I saw it in NYC, too!) xox

]]> By: Onyinyechi https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583537 Mon, 12 Feb 2018 12:08:37 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583537 “Being kind isn’t always easy. It’s not always our default setting”. This right here sums it all up.
Lovely post.

http://www.onyixtus.com

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583434 Sun, 11 Feb 2018 18:54:52 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583434 In reply to Julie.

Julie: LOVE THAT. Those questions are perfect. I’m nabbing those. Thank you. xxoo

]]> By: Julie https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583422 Sun, 11 Feb 2018 16:12:38 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583422 A question I often ask myself is, “what does love look like in this situation?” Or, “what would love do?”
Love your thoughts!!

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583301 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 23:25:21 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583301 In reply to Eva.

Eva – I sooooo agree about us women being conditioned to be “nice”. It’s a belief I’ve had to work hard to undo in my own life… Thank you for reading! xo

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583300 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 23:22:21 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583300 In reply to Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog.

Charmaine, I’m with you – I used to think of the words as interchangeable, but it’s really impacted me to start seeing the difference. Thanks for the note! xo

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583297 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 22:51:01 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583297 In reply to Clarissa Field.

Thanks, Clarissa! If I had more intelligent things to say about football, I would for sure, lol. I’m glad you enjoyed – thanks for reading and commenting!

]]> By: Julie Rybarczyk https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583296 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 22:42:11 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583296 In reply to Mailinh.

Mailinh – yes! You just summed up everything I was trying to say. Thanks for this concise insight. Love it.

]]> By: Eva https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583274 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 19:39:01 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583274 You make such a great argument about intention – that nice is a restraint of our bad behavior, while kindness comes from a much deeper place. It’s a good thing to remember! Also women are conditioned to be nice in all situations, where it’s an obligation to those around us, rather than for ourselves. Great article!

Eva | http://www.shessobright.com

]]> By: Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583252 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 16:28:33 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583252 I never thought of the difference between niceness and kindness – they’ve always sort of merged into the same thing for me. Thank you for this. It’s nice to see the words distinguished and made clear. Love the examples too. 🙂
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Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
http://charmainenyw.com

]]> By: Clarissa Field https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583248 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 16:14:05 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583248 Great post. I enjoyed the nice vs kind description, and I really enjoyed hearing a woman touch briefly on football. It’s the first blog post I’ve seen that works football into a mostly feminine blog.

]]> By: Mailinh https://witanddelight.com/2018/02/well-isnt-that-nice/#comment-583247 Sat, 10 Feb 2018 16:06:22 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=26740#comment-583247 I always viewed “nice” as a description and “kind” as an action. Thank you for this piece.

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