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By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:15:52 +0000

In reply to ruth. It's so easy to do, Ruth, and the beating-ourselves-up is also easy to do. Thank you for such an honest comment. Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:14:53 +0000

In reply to Natalie. Thank you, Natalie. :)

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:13:45 +0000

In reply to Jamie. Xoxo Jamie. Thank you. :)

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:13:22 +0000

In reply to Alina.

Alina – Thank you for such a wonderful comment. Rediscovery, which I suppose happens our whole lives, really does feel amazing. 🙂 Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:12:20 +0000

In reply to Robin Hawkins.

Robin – if I had a dime for every time I thought to myself: I wish I had known this a decade ago. 🙂

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:11:53 +0000

In reply to Tepita.

Tepita – That is exciting, the feeling that this could be the one! You’re so much more aware than I was when I was feeling the same way. 🙂 Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:10:54 +0000

In reply to Sloan.

Sloan – ‘very agreeable’ is such a great way of describing it. 🙂 Sending love back to you. Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:10:11 +0000

In reply to Mary. Mary - the slow adaptation is the hardest to recognize. Your comment resonates so much. Good luck and keep us posted. Xoxo. Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:08:32 +0000

In reply to Isabel Jones.

Isabel – The blame game is so easy to fall into, no? I love your point about taking responsibility. It’s hard but ultimately the only way I’ve found out of any mess. 🙂 Thank you for such a thoughtful comment. Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:07:28 +0000

In reply to Nathalie | Want for Wellness. Nathalie - It's such a fine line between being an individual and also being present and active in our relationships. Your writing is lovely. I love that we can all share our stories. Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:06:11 +0000

In reply to Michaela.

Michaela – compromise…sometimes such a dirty word. 🙂 I recently read the book Never Split the Difference, and the author (an FBI negotiator) talks about the downside to compromise. Your comment reminds me of his words. 🙂 Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:04:57 +0000

In reply to Ellen Koneck. Ellen - your point about loss-of-self in other areas is so thought-provoking. Isn't it easy to be defined by the external? Thank you for such a lovely comment. Amy

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 14:04:03 +0000

In reply to Audra.

Audra – I love your use of the words ‘disservice’ and ‘introspection.’ Your response is a beautiful call to action! Amy

By: Cinco à quinta #1 - Tudo o que Luz

Cinco à quinta #1 - Tudo o que Luz — Sat, 30 Jun 2018 22:54:35 +0000

[…] yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you’re special too.” Um texto sentido e inspirador, sobre como os compromissos que assumimos com os outros por vezes nos desviam […]

By: Isabel Jones

Isabel Jones — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 16:57:50 +0000

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in being a wife and mother. I’m a new wife and mother and I’ve spent a lot of time being so wrapped up in my roles that my relationship actually started to suffer.

Because I wasn’t taking the time to do things for myself, I did start playing that blame game with my husband. But once I started taking responsibility and creating my own life within the one I was living, I suddenly started finding joy in every aspect of my life.

I think this post is important for people in any step of a relationship. Being an individual within a couple is so important.

By: Nathalie | Want for Wellness

Nathalie | Want for Wellness — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 15:08:08 +0000

This article has been on my to-read list for about a week, because I felt it deserved some undivided attention. And I wasn’t wrong!

I’ve been a mother for 14 months now and I started to notice the same thing, in fact I wrote about it in my last article (5 things I learned since becoming a parent): My feeling of purpose got less individualistic, and I felt that was a very nice change. But I did start to feel less like an individual.

I am trying to be aware of this to make sure I keep in touch with the enterprising, exciting woman that often gets shadowed by my role as mother – no matter how much I enjoy the latter.

This article really made me feel the problem I was sensing isn’t mine alone and I’m happy you shared your story! Thank you for inspiring me, and probably tons of other people.

PS: What a beautiful portrait!

By: Michaela

Michaela — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 16:31:08 +0000

I think a lot of what you’ve talked about in this post is precisely why I’m itching to be single again and not have to compromise with a fussy partner who gets uppity when I do things they don’t like.

I’d love to find myself again!

By: Ellen Koneck

Ellen Koneck — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 15:42:29 +0000

Was just having a conversation with someone recently about this — being faced with downtime and not knowing what habits or hobbies are even life-giving to us. I think losing sight of ourselves can happen not just in relationships, but because of careers, school — there are so many tempting places to stake our identity other than in ourselves! Thanks for a such a lovely and lucid essay xo

By: Audra

Audra — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 02:49:16 +0000

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! This resonates with so many of us! As women, we have to love ourselves as deeply as we love others. Anything else is a disservice. This post has struck a cord down in my soul. Ladies, let’s remember who we are. We can be anything and many things. But we must remain true to ourselves! Let the introspection begin….

By: Mary

Mary — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 20:53:12 +0000

Thanks for sharing your story!
I can totally relate to your experiences.
For months I’ve been struggling with myself, wanted to cry all the time and wasn’t happy. My friends started worrying as they couldn’t recognize me. And I found the answer.
I’m in a relationship for three years now and have slowly adapted to a point where I lost by friends by not keeping in touch and trying to please my bf. I stopped spending time doing things I loved like doing music, painting and being creative. I gained weight, didn’t do any sports combined with a job change including lots of stress.
Now I’ve recognized what went wrong and am trying to focus on myself and the things that don’t take my energy but make me happy.
I’m glad you took your chances and fell much better and like yourself again 🙂

By: ruth

ruth — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 18:42:20 +0000

I remember waking up to the realisation that i had given up on myself and really beat myself down for a long time before realising that it’s such an easy thing to do and it happens over a long period of time. This is such a timely piece. x

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By: Robin Hawkins

Robin Hawkins — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 17:59:24 +0000

Beautiful and right on time for me. Thank you for your insights and honesty. I wish I had known this a decade ago,but I will take this and run with it

By: Tepita

Tepita — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 17:21:49 +0000

Wonderfully honest post and good points. I’m almost into 1 year with my boyfriend and for the first time I feel like this could be the one. But at the same time we both struggle because he travels a lot for work and is quite insecure while I worry, just like you, that I might change myself for him without noticing… And I don’t want to do that. But on the other hand we got this far and I’m not one for giving up 🙂

By: Natalie

Natalie — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 17:08:27 +0000

I can relate to so many of these things. Thank you for putting these feelings into words.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 17:00:11 +0000

Love this so much. Thank you for your insight and honesty!

By: Sloan

Sloan — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 16:54:39 +0000

I met my husband 14 years ago while traveling abroad. In the last year I discovered that I, too, had lost myself and molded myself into someone very agreeable, but without opinions of her own. I’m still trying to work through this and honor myself, but it’s been challenging. Thank you for sharing your story. It made me feel less alone. Sending love your way.

By: Alina

Alina — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 16:44:40 +0000

What a beautiful and raw post. I can relate to so many of those things. Boy, does it feel amazing rediscovering yourself! Really one of the most amazing feelings in the world… Thank you for a wonderful read!